I get asked often what a life coach is.

In a nutshell, I will tell you that it is my

job to help you build a life you are in LOVE with.

So why do people go to a life coach in the first place?

Here are 12 reasons why people choose to work with me.

• You Feel Lost:  Everyone has something that they feel uncertain of.  Maybe it is your career, or your love life, or maybe your spirituality.  Heck, maybe you don’t even know what IT is! This is where I come in. As your coach, I work with you to discover where this feeling is coming from and then together we create a plan around regaining assurance in your life. 

• You Doubt Yourself: We all do it.  You are not alone. Maybe you think you are not good enough in your marriage, your job, as a parent, as a friend, but you don’t have to stay doubtful.  Coaching allows me to help you get to the bottom of why you doubt yourself and then create action around learning to listen to your soul so that you are empowered to believe in yourself again and trust that you are valuable and worthy.

• You Have a Vision But No Clear Plan:  You open your eyes one day and after taking a good look around, realize that you are not living the life you imagined.  You may not be sure how you got there and you are damn sure you don’t know how to get where you want to be. As a coach, I get to help you uncover what it is you really want out of your life and then help you create a plan to achieve just that.  I continue to work with you as obstacles arise to help you keep moving in the direction you want to go in. 

• You Want to Change Your Profession: Changing jobs can be a very scary endeavor.  Maybe you know what you want to do and maybe you don’t. Maybe you struggle with the courage to follow your dreams, or maybe you can’t see how you could even achieve such a lofty goal.  Digging in to your desires and fears allows me to help you define which action steps are the right path for you and support you as you work to complete them.

• You Need to Improve Your Health: You want to improve your health but you just can’t seem to stay motivated with any of the things that will help you get there.  Coaching sessions can be easily tailored to create support and accountability in all the areas of health; physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.

• You Tend To Forget Things:  Remembering things isn’t always a memory/cognitive issue.  Sometimes it is a subconscious issue. Our subconscious has a way of making sure it is heard!  If we are repeatedly forgetting something that “should” be of importance in our life, there is likely an underlying reason.  Coaching can help you uncover this and then using tools and techniques, teach you how to take back control of your life.

• You Don’t Always Follow Through: You start things but just can’t seem to finish them…You are not the only one.  I have tools and techniques to help you learn to become a finisher in your life.  

• Your a Procrastinator:  Many people think that procrastination stems from a fear of failure but this is not true.  It comes from a fear of success. People who have an underlying fear of success shy away from the activities that will bring them what they say they want.  All the while, their subconscious is having playtime holding them back because the belief is that success brings more work. I can help you get to the bottom of those beliefs that are holding you back and help you re-frame your messaging to learn to trust in yourself and enjoy going after more success.

• You Don’t Have a Lot of Time to Waste:  Time is the only commodity that we cannot make more of.  You will hear me say this all the time! You have things to do, and places to go in this world and you do not have the time to just wade through the mud hoping to get there.  The tools and techniques you learn through coaching can help you quickly accelerate your momentum toward getting where you want to go in life.

• You Need to Make More Money:  Money is often a taboo topic. And it shouldn’t be.  Often, we do not realize the messed up money stories we are carrying around that are holding us back from bringing more money into our lives.  As your coach, I will help you uncover those messed up money stories, teach you the tools you need to overcome those messed up money stories, and help you to create a new perspective around money in order to bring more of it into your life.

• You are Susceptible to Stress: Stress, we all know this creature…it can come without warning and flood everything in our lives.  We feel the physical reaction in our bodies. We know it affects what we choose to do, eat, how we sleep, and so much more. But not many people have tools to help manage stress when it shows up.  Through coaching, I can teach you tools and techniques to manage stress in a way that can become easy and effortless as you practice them.

• Your Self Confidence Could Use a Boost: Building self confidence is the #1 reason people come to me.  Having a strong self confidence is what everyone wants. They want to feel comfortable in their own skin and to not be concerned with the judgments of others.  They want to hold their head up high and trust in themselves. This can seem like an impossible task for some but with the support of me as your coach, I can absolutely help you build your self confidence one layer at a time.

Coaching has done wonders for me personally as well as my clients. 

Here’s what a few of them have to say:

Rebecka says: “Stephanie is incredible! Her heart is absolutely golden, and anyone who has had the opportunity to work with her leaves with a completely different mindset, ready to master their fears, and see their own value and worth. I have been incredibly lucky to have had the chance to work with her for over 2 years and she has taught me so much about leading with heart, believing in myself, and given me confidence to become everything I’ve ever wanted to be and so much more. I highly recommend Stephanie!! She’s worth more than I could ever give her return. Thank you Stephanie for always being so incredible and for everything you’ve done for me. I absolutely love you!!!”

Karen says: “I have coached with Stephanie a couple of times and both sessions resulted in life changing focus. In our first session we worked on a life mantra with the intent of manifesting a lifestyle that I have always dreamed of. In two short months my life focus has flipped and everything she helped me identify as true desires are unfolding at a pace that frankly is unbelievable .. Thank you God for listening … Our second session focused on a personal mission statement work which has been equally insightful leaving me with a very clear focus. Thank you Stephanie for helping me get out of my own way and focused on the true desires of my soul. You are a blessing and have a true gift. I look forward to continued growth alongside you. I am grateful for the work .. more importantly you.”

Jennifer says: “I’m blown away….. After just one visit with Stephanie, she has helped me organize the million ideas I had in my head. I came to her with a load of ideas for a business but had no idea what it all meant, let alone organize it all. Not only do I have a step by step plan of action, a killer business theme that gets me excited every time I think about it, but we also uncovered areas about myself that was blocking me from moving forward in success. I went in thinking I was going to get answers for one thing and left totally baffled with what was uncovered and new and better improved ideas for my business idea. I can’t wait for our next session.Stephanie is a superb coach that truly leaves you feeling Radiant! I highly recommend her.”

Janee says: “Stephanie is an intuitive Life Coach, her understanding and compassion fills the energy around her. She is welcoming and skilled as she walks you through your own thoughts and feelings so you can discover the solutions that are just right for you.”

Kelley says: “Stephanie was there for be during a part of my life that I struggled deeply with grief and how to move on with my healing. She comforted me yet talked me through the barriers I needed to break down. She was vital in my healing process and I can’t thank her enough!”

If you are ready to start seeing this kind of movement in your life, I got you!

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Of Course!

I write a blog post about time management and proceed to talk about how much my kids have gained from these tools and then…the whole next week falls apart!

I mean, isn’t it true as parents that just when we think we have our kids figured out, they go and change the game on us without warning?

Yup, that’s what happened this last week in my house!

No one could seem to manage even the most basic of task management this week. Rules were ignored, manners were lacking, and time didn’t even seem to exist for some members of my household.

And all it made me want to do (even with all my skills and tools) was lose my shit!  I could feel the frustration building in me, the irritation of it all coming to a boil.  I spent night after night reviewing the “contributing citizen” speech, asking for them to repeat the breakdown of each person’s role and responsibilities in the community of our home, and then to have each one tell me what they would like to do about turning this back around. (Can you hear my robotic voice as you read this? Sometimes I feel like the teacher and parents from the Peanuts cartoons!)

The thing is, we can have wonderful habits built into our lives and our days.  We can teach our children skills that will empower them and build independence.  And doing this with them and for them allows us to see where they are progressing in their behavior.

But have you ever found yourself looking back and saying, “what happened?  How did I get off track?” Because somewhere along the line you let yourself off the hook of a habit that was good for you.

We all do it.  

Maybe you are an early riser.  Your morning routine is one of peace and production.  You get up while the rest of the house is silent. Maybe you journal, read, meditate, savor your morning coffee, workout, shower, or knock out a few chores before the world awakes.  And then one day, you feel just bone tired. You think “I am crushing this thing called life so I will just give myself a break.” And before you know it, you have become the person who uses the snooze on the alarm and spends most of your day feeling like you are 10 steps behind. Every. Damn. Day.

Our kids go through this too.

I clearly needed that reminder this week; that part of time management and keeping habits going is that we need to build in breaks.

I am not talking about Netflix binging benders that last for days where you don’t really change from your bedtime clothes to your couch clothes and then catch a whiff of something and realize that something is you.

But maybe you do need a day of this every month.  Maybe you need to block out a few hours a week to just do something that brings your soul some rest.  

Truth is, when we get like this, it’s not our bodies that are burnt out.  It’s our souls.

And teaching our kids how to unwind in healthy ways should very much be a part of our time management toolbox too.

My habit is to front load my day.  I put all the big important things in my day first.  My health gets attention first with working out, getting ready for my day, and making a healthy breakfast.  My family comes next with planning out who will be where and when and how they are getting there. Then I try to tackle at least one thing around the house even if it is simply putting away everything I used that morning so my home is welcoming to come home to and I take out anything that I need thawed for that night’s dinner. And then I am off to the business and there I tackle the highest priority for that day first.  That way, if I get pulled away, I know that the most important thing got done.

By front loading my day, I am working when my brain is fresh and so is my energy.  This way, when I get home, all my major decision making is done for the day. I know what I am cooking for dinner and once dinner is done, then I am free to help kids with homework, lay low with a book or a tv show, or hang with the hubby.

Also by helping my kids do this, I am teaching them how to build in healthy time to unwind every day so that burn out is less likely to happen.

Take a minute and think about your day.  Place your hand over your heart. Ask yourself, “what does my soul need right now?”

The first thing that comes to mind is what you should do.  Maybe it’s go to bed early, or read, or play a game with your kiddos, or just sit in silence for a minute. Practice this daily and you will learn to be more in tune with what your needs are so that you can continue to build healthy habits in time management.

And then the next time you see one of your kiddos struggling, sit down on the floor, place their hand over their heart, and ask them what their heart needs the most right now.  It will change the temperature of the room and teach them a skill that will forever be valuable to them.

Time…

Time is something everyone has in common.  Not one person has ever told me that they feel they have all the time in a day they need to do all the things they want to do.

Everyone feels like they wished they had more time.

We all know it is the only commodity that once it is spent, we can’t make more of.

We all have times in our lives, maybe even every day, where we feel up against the clock.

Not one person lives without the concept of a clock.  Not even a baby. How many times have you heard the phrase “must be that time again”?  And then when the clock is referenced, that person realizes that their own internal clock is telling them something important.

Not having enough time can be the biggest stressor in people’s lives.

Time can make our attitude or break our attitude, right?

Some of the most rude and offensive people I have ever been around or worked with are stressed about being pressed for time.

Let’s look at morning routines for an example:

You are running late leaving the house for work.  Maybe it’s only 3 minutes but you could close that gap if you push the gas pedal a little harder so it’s fine, really.  And then you come around the corner and quickly pump the brakes because the car in front of you is going so slow you can feel your hair graying.  At this point you feel the blood pressure rise. There is a consequence for being late for work, right? The threat of our income can make us feel all kinds of feelings. So you follow too closely, maybe say some curse words, or maybe even pass in an unsafe zone.  This isn’t your true nature but when the stress mounts you start doing and saying things that you would do otherwise.

Or how about this one parents:

Getting kids out the door in the morning…yup the dreaded late for school or daycare behavior…You tell them to hurry, they respond by moving slower.  You explain everyone is in a hurry, they can’t find their other shoe. You race around feeling the stress building, they start crying and therefore do nothing you asked of them.  You start raising your voice, they cry harder and now you are left to treating them like a ragdoll because they can’t even seem to stand up on their own. Now the morning is shot and so are everyone’s nerves.  It’s going to be hard for your children to learn and just as hard for yourself to shake it off and work with purpose and joy.

No one wants to live like this.  It’s simply our humanity and unlearned skills that leave us grasping at straws.

But there is a better way.  You can learn new tools that will empower you, and in turn, empower your kiddos.

Time management tools for the whole family can free up your time as your kiddos start to become even more independent.  

Could you imagine your child getting out of bed in the morning with a smile and then carrying that smile through tackling their whole morning routine independently?

It is possible!

But it comes from a place of example.  If you don’t illustrate this with authenticity, your kids will never get on board too.

How would it feel to go through your day and not feel the pressure of the clock?

What would it mean to you to have a set of skills and tools available to make the clock work for you?

What could it be like to empower your kids to have the same tools?

Can you feel the peace that could live in your home by making the time to learn these skills?

I know it’s possible because I have done this with my own family.

I was blessed enough to have an 11 year gap between our last 2 kids.  It’s like raising 2 separate families!

With the first 2 kids, I was that stressed mom who was always yelling at them to hurry up, rushing from one thing to another like my hair was on fire.  I would get frustrated when my rushing would slow them down and that just increased my frustration. See the vicious cycle happening?

And as they got older, I started to see how this was affecting their attitude in so many areas of their lives.  I was young and had no clue how something as small as rushing them out the door in the morning could have such a severe impact on how they viewed managing their lives.  

I started to see how they waited for me to tell them to do more and more.  They stopped taking responsibility for their time and this led to them taking less responsibility in every other area.

When I learned better time management techniques, I thought that just doing these things in front of them was enough.  

It wasn’t.

Even though the older boys are grown now, they still struggle with some time management stuff.  

Our little surprise who is now 6, doesn’t struggle the same way the older boys do.  He is empowered to care for himself and his things in a timely manner that allows him to head out the door with a smile and a heart full of joy in the morning.

And it isn’t cutting into anyone’s sleep to make it a reality.

So often I hear from parents that they don’t have the time to do a time management class.

I would say that they don’t have the time not to.

If I would have had these resources when the older boys were little, I would have spent less time in their teenage years battling with them.  

I often think back with some regret for the time that was wasted because we didn’t make the time to figure it out sooner.  

But I am grateful for the chance to make things different for each of my children now. And to show them that having the strength of character to change something that isn’t working is a valuable quality.

Time is going to pass anyway…don’t let the stress of it passing be the reason you don’t LOVE the way you spend your time.  Your family feels it. You feel it.

You all deserve to spend your time more peacefully.