March 13

Why You Shouldn’t Hire a Life Coach


Coaching is the absolute best thing that has ever happened to me.  I have spent decades working on my inner shit. I started when I was 15 and I haven’t stopped yet.  I have used books and workbooks, workshops, online programs, retreats, and coaches. Coaching is hands down the most transformative for me and for my clients as well.  Don’t get me wrong, I get a lot of help and support from these other tools for sure! They have a valuable place in my growth.

 But when I want to get real and make drastic change in my life quickly, I reach for a coach to get my head clear and to get out of my own way.

Working with a life coach isn’t for everyone.  If you are content with the status quo then coaching may not be a good fit for you.  Here are 5 reasons why coaching wouldn’t work for you:

  1. You want to be told what to do.It is not my job as a coach to tell you what to do and how to do it. My main role is to help you, the client, determine what is best for you and then help you create a plan to achieve it all while holding you accountable. As your coach, I see you as creative, resourceful and completely competent to run your own life.  Yes there may be times when a coach will observe something that the client doesn’t see and in that moment we will share our observations, but it is up to you, the client, to decide what you want to do with that observation. In our sessions, I will help you break things down into manageable bite size pieces and then those bite size pieces will become homework for you to do between our sessions.  As you do those homework assignments, you will learn to deepen your trust in your own instincts and learn how to listen to your own inner voice in order to create more progress faster.
  1. You believe your life is good enough.There are some people who are perfectly content with their life just the way it is and that is A-Okay!  Being content is always a great thing to practice, like gratitude! But when “good enough” comes at the expense of your dreams, then maybe there is something deeper to look at.  A life coach can help you take a deeper look at what beliefs and thoughts might be getting in the way of you taking any steps toward your dreams, and then help you create a plan and take the steps you need to achieve those dreams.  You don’t have to settle for “good enough” if it isn’t what you really want out of your life.
  1. You hate change.Change is scary, I get it!  We live in a society where creature comforts can be ordered and delivered in minutes all from the comfort of our pajamas and couches! Amazon anyone?  Life coaches are all about change: changing thought patterns, changing behaviors, changing word choice...looking at any area that could use change in order to improve your life.  A life coach will push you toward change and if you don’t want to move outside of your comfort zone, they will challenge you to not just look outside of your comfort zone, but to take steps to move away from it.  Change does not happen inside the comfort zone. Life coaches are all about change because that is where the transformation occurs!
  1. You don’t want to pay.
    When you look around your space right now, you can see all the material things you are willing to invest in to get good quality items; maybe your high-end smart phone, your car, your hair care or skin care products, your hobbies even.  But are those material items more valuable than your own inner wellbeing? The value you get from working with a coach will outweigh the amount of money you invest in all your material items. Your return on investment will never cease to end because you will not only continue to grow as you learn more about yourself, but you will help others around you to do the same.  Want to impact your world in a big way? Hire a coach.  There are so many self help freebies out there, why do you have to pay so much money for a life coach to tell you what a book from the library can?  Yes, those books are helpful. I have used many in my lifetime to help me achieve things that I want to improve upon. But those books don’t zero in on what is unique to you. Personal one on one coaching or even group coaching can help you pinpoint clearly the exact ideas and beliefs that are holding you back.  A great coach will be able to observe your specific patterns and help you not only become aware of them, but also help you build tools that will allow you to create new patterns that support you instead of hold you back.  
  1. You don’t want to improve your relationships.This is the number one area that every single one of my clients has expressed improvement.  Working with a coach will absolutely improve your relationships so if you don't want that, then keep moving.  When you take the time to learn more about yourself, love yourself, forgive yourself, you find that it is naturally easy for you to do the same with the other people in your life.  You have more patience. You give more grace. You learn what the small stuff is for you and what your deal breakers are. You learn to improve your ways of communication so that not only are you feeling heard but so is the other person.  You learn how to calmly and lovingly stand up for yourself and create boundaries that are healthy. But if you are good with the way things are in your life right now, then coaching may not be for you.

Today’s habits are tomorrow's results.  What do you want tomorrow’s results to be?

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About the author 

Stephanie Connor

HI!  I am the creator of Radiant Life Unlimited.  I have been a Certified Life Coach for 3 years.  I am passionate about helping people uncover the life of their dreams and support them while they create it through one on one coaching and the courses we offer here Radiant Life University.

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